TMI Tuesday – Choices, Bonds & Significant Others

Choices, Bonds & Significant Others

It’s been a while since I’ve done one of these, so here goes.

1. Are you “in love” with your significant other or are you simply compatible. Scientist claim that being “in love” only last within the first six months of a relationship.

Mike and I have been together for nearly 12 years and I would say that I am still very much in love with Him.

2. Do you solve problems with your significant other (s.o.) or are you the real and only problem solver. A relationship has a stronger bond when both people in the relationship work toward resolving issues whether it be with kids, finances, management of home, etc.

Mike is probably better at solving “big” problems than I am, but we always tackle them together. We value each other’s views and opinions.

3. If you live with your s.o. do you both do chores and have equal amount of chores in the household? Research shows resentment mounts in couples who have an imbalance in household chore duties.

This is a tricky one. In general, we each do our share of the housework. We both cook and clean and look after our son. Having said that, we do have a D/s relationship where He sets me a number of tasks. These can be domestic chores or something else entirely. In that respect, I suppose I have more “chores” than He has.

4. Is your relationship meaningful to you for companionship or is it personally fulfilling? Marriage in the U.S.A. has changed over time from being for survival (home, food), to companionate love during most of the 20th Century, to 1960s to present being about personal fulfillment.

Both! Absolutely no question. Mike is my companion and soul mate. But, at the same time, He is my Master, my Guide, my Instructor. Mike allows me to grow, caring for me and directing me; allowing me to strive towards the best version of me I can be.

5.In general do people think of you as a “couple” with your s.o. or do they connect with you individually just as much as a connecting with you as a couple. (Do you feel you’ve lost your individuality since being in a serious romantic relationship?)

We are very definitely a couple and very definitely individuals in partnership within that couple. The D/s element does not change that. He may be my Master, and I am most definitely His submissive, but He cherishes my sense of self. I submit to His will through choice as an equal, He does not force me to it.

#TMITuesdayBonus: You are invited to a large cocktail party at a fancy country club where you know no one. When you arrive, the room where the party is being held is already half full of people–naked people. How do you react when you enter the room?

Given that we have been active on the swinging scene for a long time, this sounds pretty typical of quite a few of the parties we both host and get invited to. Neither of us have any issues around nudity, so we’d just get out of our own clothes as quickly as possible and join in with the festivities.

Chloë

One thought on “TMI Tuesday – Choices, Bonds & Significant Others

  1. If I was in a D/s relationship I’d probably make the sub do all the chores too. It must take discipline for Mike not to go overboard with that.

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