TMI Tuesday – This or That?

This or That?

#TMITuesdayThe trouble I had with this week’s questions was that the answer to pretty much all of them would have been a resounding “both“. That really wouldn’t have come as much of a surprise, nor would it have told anybody much of interest about me, so instead of a straight forward answer, I decided to describe what I like about both.

  1. Lights on or off?
    I’m a very visual person. I like to see what I’m doing and what’s being done to me. I would say I’m fundamentally a “lights on” kind of girl. That said, darkness is very sexy. There is something very intimate and cosy about those warm, comfortable, late at night cuddles that turn into something more, so “lights out” is definitely good too.
  2. Slow teasing or getting right to business?
    It really depends on the mood and/or the circumstances. I do like long, extended, teasing (sometimes to the point of torture) foreplay. I love the excitement, the build up of anticipation, the desire and need growing inside me. Sometimes though, I just want to be fucked; right there, right then. I want it hard, rough and nasty.
  3. Giver or receiver?
    I think I may have mentioned that I love sucking cock. I love doing something that is essentially just for Him. I love the feeling of power and control; that His orgasm is mine to give or withhold (not that I would ever dare to withhold, although I may try to prolong as long as I can. I am, however, as a submissive, very much the receiver; whether it be His cock, His tongue, His belt, His discipline, His love. Blow-jobs aside, sex is something that is “done to” me and I love being on the receiving end of His attentions.
  4. Background noise or no?
    I actually have no real preference. I’m generally pretty vocal (except when ordered to be quiet) so I would tend to shatter silence or drown out background noise anyway.
  5. Top or bottom?
    As I said, I most enjoy sex that is “done to” me. I love being beneath Mike, having Him take me firmly and forcefully. I love the feeling that He is using me for His pleasure. I want to feel taken, used. I want to be fucked. But I also love to serve Him. I love to give Him pleasure. To slowly lower myself on to His lovely hard cock and ride Him with gradually increasing abandon; giving Him my cunt or my mouth and providing His pleasure instead of Him just taking it from me.
  6. Private or public?
    I definitely have an exhibitionist streak. I also have a voyeuristic streak as well. Being poly and a swinger, I’m no stranger to having sex in front of other people, of being in the presence of other people having sex. I do get a thrill from being watched; knowing that what I am doing and what is being done to me is turning people on. I also get incredibly turned on watching; although this can sometimes be tinged with a trace of jealousy that I am not actively involved.I also get a huge thrill from the semi-public situations. Those frantic fucks in dark alleys and the long, languid sessions out in the deserted countryside where there is a possibility of being caught/observed. I am as much of a risk taker as I am a thrill seeker. Both are huge turn-ons for me.

Bonus: – Describe your best or worst sexual encounter. Double bonus if you describe both. 😉
The worst sex I ever had was, perversely, with probably the most well-endowed guy I ever had sex with. He really didn’t make any effort at all and seemed to think that just being big was enough to give me anything I could possibly want. To say I was disappointed was a massive understatement.

As for the best sex? How do I quantify this? Even if I could, I could only describe the “best” sex I have had to date. The sex that I have tonight, or the sex that I have tomorrow, or the sex that I have at some as yet unforeseen time in the future may turn out to be better than anything I have had previously. Even then, it will only be the “best” sex I’ve had until I have even better sex. For me, the “best” sex is that which engages all my senses, takes me to intense highs and leaves me feeling completely used up and drained, physically, emotionally and spiritually. It’s the sex that satisfies on every concious and unconscious level. It’s the sex that validates me.

Chloë

3 thoughts on “TMI Tuesday – This or That?

  1. Wonderful answers! I had trouble answering these too, and they were my own questions. I lot of it I wanted to say both, as it all depends on the mood and the setting.

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  2. “His cock, His tongue, His belt, His discipline, His love. Blow-jobs aside, sex is something that is “done to” me and I love being on the receiving end of His attentions.”

    This is exactly how I feel about my man and sex – so well put

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